Let me continue this process…

5. What is the principle of Step One?
       I believe that this Step is meant to allow myself to surrender. It lets me make an admission to myself that I have no control over Bernie’s death, how or why she did it, and that as long as I continue to consider those long ago events, my life today will continue to be unmanageable.
      A surrender, a complete surrender, is the principle of this Step. By surrendering to the fact that Bernie’s death has nothing to do with me and that there is absolutely NOTHING that I can do about it all, I am released from that obsession.

Keep The Faith*

My celebration went down last night. I woke up yesterday realizing that I was celebrating alone. I also realized that I couldn’t put off choosing participants and letting other addicts choose. It was all up to me. Gawd, I didn’t even know who to ask to speak!!

The Ottawa Senators were playing game 7 of the 1st round of the Stanley Cup playoffs last night against the NY Rangers in New York (Sens lost, btw. Yay!) Thus, the meeting was really small since hockey is Way More Important than recovery. ~~ now, is that being facetious or what?! ~~ Actually had to double up a reading with one addict. Anyways, I got a very good friend to speak. I had some trepidation in asking, knowing that she was traveling thru some things in her recovery and life. But, she said yes… and absolutely made my night with her amazing message of recovery!

T’was a good thing, I think, to be the sole celebrant, as the meeting went well past our usual end time. I had Rob give me my XX medallion, which I think I’ll keep instead of giving it back to the group as I have in the past. And, AND, I got one of those rarely seen and totally unauthorized purple keytags denoting “Clean & Serene for Decades”!! Way cool, I tell ya!

All in all, a good night. I got a medallion, heard a great speaker, was given a special keytag, and the Sens lost!! Who could ask for more??!!

My Medallion

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My Special Keytag

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Grazie a voi, e io ti amo, Jackie!

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Keep The Faith*
(and for you anonymity purists out there, Tough!)

Two in one day? hmmmmmm……

Gratitude is something that is needed in my life today. It is forgotten far too much. I got a heapin’ handful of Gratitude after my previous entry from a li’l while back. I had a sponsee come by to do some Step work (Step One!!) and the theme that arose from our meeting was, without a doubt, Gratitude. I kept bringing up examples of Gratitude in my life, and more importantly, how much I had received today.

After my last entry, I checked my emails. I got a “letter” from my daughter. It was filled with the Gratitude that she had for being my daughter, for me being her dad, and how we grown from that relationship. This letter showed me that I still am on the right path in my recovery and that even if I fail to see it, I have done some good. Gratitude.

Another email came from a friend in recovery who was responding to an amends or “mea culpa” email I had sent out regarding a service commitment from a few days ago. She reminded me that I did things right, that I need not dump on myself for self-perceived mistakes. Gratitude.

A third email came from a long ago friend. She was responding to a short “thinking of you” note I sent off after hearing an old song from the Rolling Stones that reminded me of her. Her response was very short, but oh-so sweet!  “You always was the best kisser I ever kissed!!”  At first I wasn’t sure where that came from, until I remembered the lyrics of the song. Well… Gratitude.

Those three examples of the Gratitude I received today alone, I shared with the fellow who came by tonight. And many many other examples I shared from my past, near and far. I pointed out that even when I might be down in the dumps or wrapped up in a blue funk, I can search for and discover much to be grateful for, again from the past or from Just For Today. I gave him an exercise to do. Each day for the next seven days, write ten things he is grateful for, without repeating any. After telling him that, I realized that this exercise would probably do ME a whole whack of good, too! So, I said that I will follow my own advice and make my own lists. Gratitude.

Gratitude, t’is a wonderful thing!!

Keep The Faith*

Time, life, and service recovery has pulled me away from working that Step One. I still read it out of IW:H&W, but the writing is WAY behind. Am I making an excuse? Probably, who cares?

I passed my 20th anniversary of my clean date on the 14th. Tomorrow, I celebrate at S&H. I’ve been scrambling with short notice commitments in PR. Went fishing once and actually had a good time (and got myself four cats!!). Meetings, family, sponsorship… blahblahblah…….

I am still here. I am still clean (thank god!!). I know it all means something and most times it is good. I just tend to forget what I have and where I am today.
Gratitude, the Key to Recovery!

Keep The Faith*

On to question 4…

4. Write what each of the following parts mean to you:
      a. I admit
      b. that I am powerless
      c. over Bernie’s death
      d. and that my life
      e. has become unmanageable

a. I admit
       I tell the truth about something. I allow that truth to become a part of me and be real.
b. that I am powerless
       I have no true or lasting control. There is no chance of me taking command of a situation.
c. over Bernie’s death
       I need to take this part in connection to the previous one. Meaning, Bernie’s death had nothing to do with me and I could do no more than I had to prevent it (as much of a bitch that it is to admit !)
d. and that my life
       All that I am, do think, and feel, that is my life.
e. has become unmanageable
   “Become unmanageable” can be equated to “powerless”. There has been a loss of control, of power. However, un-manageability can be reversed, changed, if you will.

Done. For now. It is a process, as long as I maintain my reading, thinking, and introspection.

~~ besides, I have a sponsee coming by tonite to work on….
hehe….
Step One, from the SWG!! ~~

Keep The Faith*

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